{SQT} No More Clean Kitchen, Flax Seed Surprise and Speaking

It’s the time of year when you discover which Christmas toys are actually cheap junk, and the kids start clamoring to spend their Christmas money on more toys even though you haven’t found places to store all the stuff they already have. But ITS FINE. REALLY. LET’S GO TO THE MALL FOR FUN.

We’re wrapping up our Christmas break this week and everyone heads back to school on Monday or Tuesday. I’m ready to get back to our usual routine. My mom has been visiting for the last two weeks so I’ve been spoiled with lots of home cooked meals I didn’t have to make, and a clean kitchen filled with shiny dishes I didn’t need to wash. And the kids aren’t complaining about all the fresh baked desserts either. I think we’ll ease our kitchen back into its normal disheveled state gradually over the weekend, before allowing a full blown disaster to erupt sometime late next week necessitating a last minute Chinese take-out dinner. 

The kids are also thrilled because they know I have new ideas about healthy eating I’m excited to really launch into now that Christmas and grandma’s visit are over. I don’t know why they don’t understand that I only care about their well-being and am not embarking on some radical dietary changes just because I “read a book” or “hate them”. Now who’s ready for some sprouted flax seed muffins! WOOT!! 

When I wasn’t updating all of Edie’s assignments in Google Classroom, or studying for our foster parent training classes, I was outlining a new talk I’m giving as part of an upcoming Living Pro Life Conference hosted by Plating Grace and the Catholic Speakers Organization from Jan. 22-29. You can learn more HERE. The conference talks address common reasons people give for seeking an abortion, or supporting abortion. My talk is entitled “What About When the Baby is Diagnosed With a Physical Disability?” and it’s one of many great presentations. You can access the live panel discussions for free, or purchase access to all 50+ talks for only $30. There is also an option for parishes and schools to purchase access to all the talks for faith formation purposes. Check it out and let me know what you think.

On Tuesday Byron took his written permit test and unfortunately failed. I wasn’t too surprised. Addie barely passed herself. (It might be genetic because I also barely passed my written test.) What I’ve learned, and tried to instill unsuccessfully, was that the online practice tests don’t cover near enough material. Even if you consistently pass them, chances are there will be tons of questions on the actual test that you’ve never seen before. There’s no getting around really studying the drivers manual cover to cover. So we’ll go back in another week and hopefully he’ll do better. I only need him to have his license by the time Addie leaves for school in the fall so I’m not too stressed about it yet. He has his bike to get to work, and with COVID cases so high, we’ve had to cancel/ scale back on all social things (i.e. no one is hanging out with friends right now) so there’s nowhere for him to drive to anyway. 

In a few weeks, we’ll be midway through our school year and I’ll probably do a mid-year review post. Planning for it has led me to wonder how all the families who are trying homeschooling for the first time this year are doing. If you’re midway through your first year and have any questions or reflections, shoot me an email or leave a comment. I’m curious to know if it’s going as you expected, what has been most surprising, and do you feel prepared to finish out the year? 

I started work on my manuscript this week as well..I mean I sort of started work on it. I’ve been reading all my editors comments and NOT freaking out at the amount of work I need to do. I mean, anything less than adding tens of thousands of words is going to seem like a cake walk, but I was pleasantly surprised to learn that it wasn’t all crap. Because really, after years of writing and months of revising you really do start to question everything you put down on the page. I hope COVID is long gone when my book finally drops because I am so excited to travel and meet and speak and hug anyone who reads it. Like, I might just show up at your door unannounced and ask to hug you because I’ll be so thrilled to finally be promoting rather than just talking about it. “Hi are you Amazon purchaser ket93847? Did you purchase my book along with a nose hair trimmer that charges via USB?? I am so thrilled to meet you! Can I come in and meet your family?? Would you like a hug, or for me to sign your book??? Your nose hair looks FABULOUS!”

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{SQT} Holiday Recap

It’s time for my first random Quick Takes of the year. I’ll back it up and bring you up to date on all the very non-exciting things happening here.

First, I know that you’re all wondering what happened to those chestnuts I mentioned two weeks ago. Well, I didn’t ruin them during the roasting process, but I did need to boil them to make them soft enough to cook into chestnut stuffing. The outcome was pretty good, so I’m game to try it again with a few tweaks next year.

Overall, our Christmas was fun and low stress. We started opening gifts at 8 a.m. which works great when our goal is to still make it to 10:30 a.m. mass, and the teenagers are mostly coherent. The kids all shop for each other at Five Below (a step above Dollar Tree) and even though I’ve tried to introduce the “Secret Santa” idea (i.e. each kid buys for one other kid) they all insist every year on buying gifts for all their siblings. Their gifts are the first to be opened after stockings and they’re always so excited it makes me happy even as I inwardly cringe at all the plastic trinkets. We always snack on panetone for breakfast and after Mass I put out a selection of meats, cheeses, fruit, crackers, etc. that we snack on until dinner. This year we had duck, as we didn’t eat it on Martinmas per our usual custom (Edie was confirmed that evening). It was a relaxing day made special by the fact that Tony’s parents were with us. The kids liked having their grandparents here on the day for a change.

I got a ton of comfy socks and longe wear. My favorite pieces were a pair of joggers with Our Lady of Guadalupe all over them, plus a sweatshirt with the original My Little Ponies across the front. Teddy also got me these epic slipper socks that don’t slide or make my feet sweat. I feel like if I’m still in quarantine for another six months, I’m going to be at my most comfortable.

We visited with my parents on the 28th and 29th and spent the rest of the 12 days at home watching Christmas movies, listening to and singing carols, baking tons of Christmas cookies, and playing games. Since our town cancelled all New Year’s Eve plans (no giant blueberry drop!) we stayed in and enjoyed the tons of fireworks all our neighbors set off. “Teddy come drive to the back door and look out here! Wait, everyone to the front door you can see a few different displays from there! Oh, quick get on the screened in porch our neighbor across the street is shooting off some more rockets!”

At some point, I went ahead and redesigned my blog. I’d planned to update things for the new year, but after a technical issue convinced me I’d need to switch themes, I wound up just redoing the header and various images a bit earlier than planned. I wanted to pick some image that summed up the name and feel of my blog and when I came across the sketch of a classical statue of a women with the top of her head missing, I thought that summed up my brain at the end of most days so I went with it.

Tony created a game and finally put it online for people to try. It’s based on an idea Byron gave him years ago. The goal is to guide your train to the station by laying track in front of it while avoiding stationary obstacles like trees and water, as well as roving, angry beavers. Give it a try!

I’ve created a bunch of different books through the years. Most are on sale right now and many are perfect for helping you with whatever New Year’s resolutions you may have in regards to planning or homeschooling. Check them out in the shop and if you order printed copies of my planners or homeschooling audit workbook, you can take an additional 10% off the sale price by using the code AUTHOR10 (but only until midnight tonight!)

Lastly, we started foster parent training this week (virtually), and I attempted to take Byron to get his driving permit. Despite spending over an hour at the Motor Vehicle Commission, it’ll be another week until he can take his written test. No, we didn’t forget to take any paperwork the first time, they just require you to go in twice just for the permit. Tony and I also spent all day Wednesday at Children’s Hospital with Fulton and Teddy being told they’re doing great in everything. So lots of good time consuming things eating up my holiday vacation.

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Reflections on the Magi

Epiphany commemorates the arrival of the Magi at the home of Christ. The feast is often overshadowed by all the celebrations of Christmas and is noted by most as simply the end of the Christmas season. We run the risk of forgetting the Wise Men, their gifts to Jesus, and the message they send to us all.

The Magi are only mentioned in Matthew’s gospel,

After Jesus was born in Bethlehem in Judea, during the time of King Herod, Magi from the east came to Jerusalem and asked, “Where is the one who has been born king of the Jews? We saw his star when it rose and have come to worship him.”

The Jews had been waiting for a Messiah.These wise men from far lands who studied the stars, recognized that a king had been born in Bethlehem and had been diligently seeking for exactly whom it pointed to. Epiphany is not so much the end of Christmas, but the culmination of so much waiting.

On Christmas, Christ arrived and was announced by the angels, and adored by his parents and simple shepherds. Ephiphany is when Christ’s identity is made known to all outside the stable. The Magi’s adoration of Jesus represents how Christ had been sent to save us all, Gentile and Jew. Three men come from the farthest corners of the known world, and announced to a very surprised Herod that a King has been born. The news that so many had waited for had finally arrived, but it was the last thing Herod wanted to hear.

When I think of waiting, of disappointment, and of unwelcome news I cannot help but pull from my own experiences as a special needs mom. So much time has been spent waiting for answers, appointments, diagnosis, treatments, and so often what I get in return for all my efforts is not at all what I expected.

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2021 Resolutions

First, let’s just acknowledge that no one was able to stick to his or her resolutions in 2020, and consequently agree to not judge one another. Second, I’m going to share my resolutions as I always do, more from a sense of obligation/tradition rather than the belief that doing so will make me more successful. I’m also acknowledging that I will not beat myself up if another world changing event develops and derails all my plans for this year. #apocalypseclause

First the review. Last year’s resolutions and a brief summary of how I failed at each one:

  1. Say the rosary daily. – For the record, I am REALLY good at this when I’m constantly driving places. However, when I’m at home all the time, I tend to struggle with when to say one. I was saying one in the morning for a bit, but I’ve been out of the habit now for a couple months and it really does make a difference. I wouldn’t feel so awful if I was making time for some, or ANY, other spiritual stuff but, especially since school started, I’m not doing so great.
  2. Work on lowering my blood pressure through diet.  – I was eating pretty good and then COVID hit and I was trying to not go to the store that often, and meal planning became eating whatever was in our freezer or pantry and I just fell into old meal planning/ eating habits. I did mange to give up caffeine and now only drink decaf coffee, and that has helped.
  3. Reduce outside commitments. – Obviously, most outside commitments were reduced for me this year. I did take on one writing project I immediately regretted, but I was proud of the finished project so I guess it was worth it. Would I have succeeded at this resolution had there not been a lockdown? It’s debatable.
  4. Focus on growing the Accepting the Gift apostolate. – After finishing my manuscript revision in February I really expected to use all the daytime hours the boys were at school on writing, promoting, and doing more for my new online ministry, but of course, the boys wound up not being in school all that much and all my blogging and online plans changed.

My beast of the year was a Siren. I kept a picture of a Siren on my desktop all year, and she helped remind me to say no to the sweet Siren call, usually. I purposely didn’t pick a word or saint of the year and that worked out fine for me. I stand by that decision and it was the one thing from my last resolution post I 100% succeeded at! Go me!

My resolutions for 2021 are as follows:

  • Eat healthy as a family. – I’ve given this more thought than previous years, and I’m setting monthly goals, rather than trying to do it all right out of the gate. The older kids are all on board with eating better to help them with their own activities, so hopefully we can all encourage each other rather than the kids snacks/pleas derailing my efforts.
  • Commit to a daily prayer time. – I’m not sure if picking the same time everyday will work, or if I’m going to make a better effort to plan out my day each morning at which point I will schedule a prayer time.
  • Continue to grow Accepting the Gift.
  • Read more books.
  • Engage with my followers in a balanced way to ensure a successful book release, while not tying myself to social media. – The plan is for my book to come out in fall 2021. As much as I don’t want to devote a ton of time to social media, I know that I need to promote and market myself and my ministry so my book can reach the largest group of people. The trick is making sure it doesn’t spill too much into my family time. I’d dropped off most social media earlier this year and loved it, but after my book release was delayed, I became more concerned that without a huge, active online following my release wouldn’t be as successful as it could be, and that it could possibly be delayed again (though that’s strictly my fear rather than anything my publisher has ever implied or said to me.)
  • Catch up on all my own medical appointments. – I was already behind before there was a pandemic.

For my beast, I’m going with the Sphinx. Strong, silent, mysterious, but also deadly, and ready to drop a riddle at a moments notice.

If you want your own beast to take you into the new year, take a spin on my BEAST OF THE YEAR GENERATOR!!! And who says it needs to be random? If you don’t like the beast you’re given, choose a new one. Don’t let chance give you a centaur when you’re pretty damn sure you want a cockatrice by your side. Share your beast with me in the comments below, or tag me @kellymantoan on Instagram or Facebook to let me know.

For the record my previous beasts have been:

  • 2013 – Triple Headed Monster Lady
  • 2014 – Jabberwocky
  • 2015 – Manticore
  • 2016 – Pinchy the Lobster
  • 2017 – The Jersey Devil
  • 2018 – Unicorn
  • 2019 – Hydra
  • 2020 – Siren

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Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas! I’m writing this late on Christmas Eve into Christmas Day. This peaceful time before sleep, and a fun, yet crazy morning, is my favorite.

The gifts and stockings are all laid out, and I’m on a high from lighting the candles on our tree and singing carols as a family. I managed to wrap all the presents earlier in the week, thanks to my in-laws being here, so before blogging I prepped food for tomorrow and, I think, ruined the chestnuts I attempted to roast for my first batch of chestnut stuffing.

Earlier today we watched the original Star Wars Holiday Special from 1979 and it was just as awful as we’d heard, if not much, much worse. Instead of cooking up seven fishes, we picked up a sushi platter, boiled some crab legs, and even baked a few fish sticks…close enough to your traditional Italian feast! Typically we spend Christmas Eve with friends, but that was not to be this year. Midnight Mass is also out for those of us who attend as it’s just too many people, even socially distanced and masked, for us to feel comfortable. We usually attend Christmas Day mass as a family anyway and it’s never crowded, so we will stick with that tradition. And maybe even take a family photo; but no promises.

I hope your Christmas is off to a good start. I often get asked, after all the Advent traditions, how does one “celebrate” Christmas for 12 whole days?? Well, I wrote about that HERE, but I will also (try really hard!) to post everyday on Instagram one thing you can do as a family each day of Christmas to continue celebrating, even as the radio stations switch back to pop music and your neighbors take down their lights. Join me won’t you? Next newsletter goes out first thing Monday morning if you’re interested in following me there vs on some social thingy with their weird terms and whatnot.

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2020 Year in Review

And what a year it was right??

Last year I never wrote a year in review post. Instead, it went out as a belated newsletter to subscribers. In fact I hardly posted in December at all, and in reading my January posts, I’m reminded of the high hopes I had for this year. Lots of things would be wrapping up in the first few months and I’d hoped to feel less overwhelmed and frazzled and be more intentional with my time and energy.

So here’s a break down of the last year featuring some of my favorite life events, blog posts, books, and assorted who-ha.

January

Me enjoying Jennifer Fulwiler at her Naughty Corner comedy tour stop in NYC.

I entered this month with a lot of optimism. Except for a stomach bug on the first which we overcame at home, everyone was healthy, and school was going well. Tony created a cool wearable for a challenge at work that he grafted onto Teddy’s plastic Infintiy Gauntlet. His team didn’t win the challenge, but it was the coolest looking wearable by far.

I’m just as proud of Tony’s ability to create this imagine as the actual wearable.

Top Posts From This Month (out of 10)

February

Heading to Detroit!

Addie and I traveled to Detroit to visit a college, which would become her top pick and Byron and I would perform in our church’s dinner theater production over Valentines day weekend. I released the Self-Care for Special Needs Moms Workbook and finally completed the first round of edits to my manuscript for Our Sunday Visitor. After a lot of hard work by Tony, we finally finished our walk up attic and the girls got a new bedroom! We received our first challenge to our daytime nursing hours from Fulton’s insurance company, but thankfully got to keep 12 hours after only the first round of appeals.

March

Here’s everyone taking live-streamed Mass just as seriously as in-person Mass.

With the upstairs now finished, we were able to get our home inspected to begin the process of becoming foster/ adoptive parents. Addie and I traveled to Baltimore for a fencing tournament where people were starting to chat about a virus in China. By the second week of the month, I informed Fulton and Teddy’s schools I would be keeping them home, but ultimately they would close themselves within a few days. Fulton and Teddy rejoiced at being “homeschooled” again. I quickly learned that distance learning and homeschooling were two completely different beasts. Tony started working exclusively from home instead of traveling to Philadelphia. Addie and Byron’s spring break at the community college was extended so classes could be moved online. I followed the numbers on the CDC and WHO websites almost daily.

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April

Intense egg hunt action!

We stayed put in April, and got used to live-streaming Mass from our parish. Thankfully our priest set up socially distant outdoor confession so we were able to receive the sacrament this month. I tried to reduce our trips to the store, and we emptied our freezers and pantries. Edie’s Confirmation was postponed, as was the homeschool high school formal. We learned that MDA summer camp was cancelled for the summer and that cast a gloomy cloud over things for a bit. The girls started fencing classes online and scout meetings were held over Zoom.

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May

Look at those happy kids! Morale boost x100!

We made progress in our basement library by installing recessed lights, painting the walls, and hanging some shelves. Books that had been in boxes since our move were finally up on shelves. We made a last minute decision to head to the Outer Banks to quarantine somewhere different and spent a week in a large home on the sound in Duck that provided all the fun and entertainment we needed by way of kayaks, air hockey, a big screen TV, and of course a hot tub. The change of scenery was a big boost to everyone’s morale.

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June

George and Harold came to wish Fulton a Happy Birthday.

Addie graduated with no pomp and circumstance, but since the YouTube graduation special featured her favorite band BTS, she wasn’t too sad on what would’ve been the day of her graduation ceremony. Everyone wrapped up school and I prayed I would never need to oversee distance learning again. Fulton turned 12 and immediately started counting down the days until he becomes a teenager. We celebrated the Nativity of St. John the Baptist without our usual large gathering of rowdy Catholics for the first time in a decade.

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July

Tony begins his six hour introductory D&D session with the kids.

We attended Mass in person for the first time since early March. I finally finished hanging the remaining shelves in the basement. No more books in boxes! We went to the beach in Atlantic City with friends for the first time this summer. Tony organized his comic book collection and introduced the kids to Dungeons & Dragons. After years of moving this stuff around from house to house, these collections are finally being put to good use! Addie and Byron scored jobs and I was able to worry a little less about future student loan debt. I released my e-book Using Google Classroom in the Homeschool and wrote a series of posts to help new homeschooling parents.

August

Here’s Teddy just being the king of upper and lower Egypt.

Our parish held a small impromptu graduation ceremony for all the homeschooled seniors early in the month. It wasn’t the big homeschool graduation and party I’d wanted for Addie, but ultimately, it was a very special day. Tony turned 42 and I indulged in the one month a year when I can brag about being his younger wife. We took our second and last trip to the beach in Ocean City. After living with exposed sub-flooring in the hallway and younger boys’ bedroom since moving in, we finally got hardwood floors installed. Tony made progress on an app he’s developed and submitted it to PAX Online. I began homeschooling at the end of the month, Fulton having been withdrawn from the public school in June, and Teddy only slightly later once I saw the district’s plan for distance learning in the fall. St. Bruno’s has four enrolled students this year.

September

A celebratory back to school boardwalk trip.

College classes start up remotely for Addie and Bryon after Labor Day. Our church’s scout meetings start back up with outdoor, socially distant meetings and Tony begins his fifth year as a leader. Only Byron is enrolled as a scout. Tony continues to work full-time from home and learned he’ll be home through June 2021. I blink and Addie is now 18, and I’m 42. Throughout all these months Edie has been quietly helping in the background, always available to entertain her younger brothers, not complaining about anything except the state of modern fashion, and being my sweet and dutiful middle child.

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October

That’s not what we meant when we said oral medicine.

Teddy hit double digits and turned ten on the 8th. Tony and I celebrated 19 years of marriage on the 13th. The boys were able to start taking Evrysdi, an oral medication that can possibly stop, or even reverse, the progressive weakness of Spinal Muscular Atrophy. No more Spinraza lumbar punctures! Byron turned 17, and we celebrated Halloween the way we always do- with elaborate homemade costumes! The insurance company once again tried to reduce our daytime nursing hours but thankfully after several appeals, we would learn in November that an outside arbiter determined the insurance company could not cut our hours.

November

Handsome group of gentleman.

After months of waiting, Edie was finally Confirmed. We took the boys on a belated birthday(s) trip to Gettysburg, PA while the older three spent time with my parents. We had a nice, small Thanksgiving and managed to take a good family photo.

Favorite Book

Overkill: When Modern Medicine Goes To Far

I read only 16 books this year. I started several more, but never finished them. I’m hoping to finish The Reed of God, by Caryll Houselander for Advent, so then I’ll be up to 17, but worst case, I will finish it within the Christmas season and it will be a good book to kick off my 2021 reading list. While I enjoyed many of the books I read this year, none were earth shattering, which is why I’m only sharing my top pick. You can see some of the other books I’ve read, and what I’ve recommended to my newsletter subscribers HERE.

December

It’s been a month of more homeschooling, online college classes, and working from home. Numbers are back up, and more friends and family are catching COVID. Some are doing okay, some are still struggling weeks later. Edie turned 15 and we celebrated with a mother-daughter trip to Cape May, NJ to tour a Victorian house and do a trolley tour. I’ve managed to keep up with all my Jesse tree ornaments so far, and we’ve gone all out with the Christmas lights this year. We visited Shriners this week and we can now expect Teddy to get back surgery within the next 12-18 months. Thankfully, it’s not urgent, but it’s no longer some far off abstract thing either. This is our last day before we start Christmas break, and I’m looking forward to Christmas baking, finishing my shopping, and bottling the first batch of limoncello I’ve made in a few years.

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The Caregiver’s Companion; A Book For All Caregivers

As the founder of Accepting the Gift, I’m always on the lookout for resources that speak directly to Catholic special needs parents and the unique struggles they face. When I learned about The Caregiver’s Companion: A Christ Centered Journal to Nourish Your Soul, I was eager to talk to its creators and learn more about the story behind the book, and the ministry that inspired it- Nourish for Caregivers.

Debra Kelsey-Davis and Kelly Johnson met after Kelsey-Davis learned first hand that her training as a nurse did not make caregiving any easier when she cared for her mother-in-law until she passed away from neck cancer.

“Clinically I was able to care for her very well,” Kelsey-Davis said. “What I didn’t expect was the emotional and spiritual depletion. After that journey ended, I went through a spiritual dry spell, and that led me to believe that if I was out there struggling, as a nurse, there had to be so many feeling the same and worse”

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How to Think Like Shakespeare; A Review

After my last post on Shakespeare, it should come as no surprise that I’ve found another book on dear William that I want to recommend to my readers. I was so happy when Scott Newstok reached out to me and shared a copy of his book How to Think Like Shakespeare, Lessons from a Renaissance Education. I know I’ve got a few readers who might be into books on education AND Shakespeare, so I’m here to share a title you can still order in time for Christmas. And if you are not the literary type, you can scroll right to the bottom for some other posts. No hard feelings! This honest review is a sponsored post. Learn more.

Newstok’s book is broken into 14 small chapters (plus a prologue), each of which focuses on an important aspect of education and how this topic was approached in Shakespeare age and how “modern advancements” have not always improved outcomes for modern students. Many of you are probably well versed on the problems found in modern education, whether you enroll your children in public school, private school or choose to homeschool them. But rather than viewing such problems as issues to be tackled in innovative new ways, Newstok turns back to the methods employed in Shakespeare’s era, in regards to thinking, attention, craft and so forth, and how they helped created individuals like Shakespeare who could entrance generations with his stories and wit. We are left to wonder if we are stifling future generations of gifted craftsmen (and women) by continually changing our approach to education. 

If you’re familiar with a classical education (or especially Charlotte Mason), much of what Newstok writes will sound familiar, though this is not a book about homeschooling or classical education. In fact, one of the things I most enjoyed was how Shakespearean solutions to modern ills are all things we can introduce into our homes and schools, or homeschools. And not only can school age children benefit from a Shakespearean influenced education, but all of us who wish to improve our thinking. 

Unlike other books I’ve read about Shakespeare (which admittedly are not too many), Newstok pulls from many sources when making his arguments. Shakespeare becomes the ideal man, or mind, to aspire to, but the book does not talk about him singularly, His plays and sonnets are quoted extensively, and his characters are as much an inspiration as the playwright himself. This is not a biography or in-depth analysis of Shakespeare’s life and time, or any one play in particular. Shakespeare simply provides the common thread which weaves through each chapter, pulling us along to a satisfactory conclusion.

Thinking like Shakespeare untangles a host of today’s confused-let’s be blunt: just plain wrong– educational binaries. We now act as if work precludes play; imitation impedes creativity; tradition stifles auotnomy; constraint limits innovation; discipline somehow contradicts freedom; engagement with what is past and foreign occludes what is present and native.

Shakespeare’s era delighted in exposing these purported dilemnas as false: play emerges through work, creativity through imitation, autonomy through tradition, innovation through constraints, freedom through discipline.

The chapters are as follows, with a few of my favorite quotes. I know it looks like a lot but no chapter is more than 12 pages.

  • What’s Past is Prologue 
  • Of Thinking – “To think like Shakespeare, we need to reconsider the habit that shaped his mind, including practices as simple as transcribing quotations, or working with tradition.”
  • Of Ends – What is the end of a good education? “I’m worried we’ve titled too much toward the utilitarian end-study as the means to other ends, not for the enlargement of human capacities. The spirit of the times seems instead to be caught up in a joyless urgency, many of us preparing ourselves and our children to be means to inscrutable ends that are utterly not our own.
  • Of Crafts – “In short, making is thinking. Or, as the editors of the 1623 Folio praised Shakespeare, His mind and hand went together. Don’t you want yours to go together too?”
  • Of Fit – “The word “apt”…derives from the root apere, a verb meaning to fit things together, in the manner of a carpenter, joiner, weaver, bellows mender, tinker, tailor…. Like teaching, like writing, like thinking, these crafts all require pliability, threading things in the right place at the right time, and thereby strengthening them.”
  • Of Place – “Small physical classrooms emerge from a long heritage of “thinking spaces” that provide an anchor in time and space.” – Great chapter in light of all the changes to classroom learning during the pandemic.
  • Of Attention -“Iris Murdoch asked, What should be taught in schools? Her answer’s as simple as it’s daunting: To attend…to learn to desire to learn.”
  • Of Technology – “It’s human to avoid the hard work of thinking, reading and writing. But we all fail when technology becomes a distraction from, or, worse, a substitute for, the interminable yet rewarding task of confronting the object under study…”
  • Of Imitation – “Imitating good models strengthens every human endeavor, from infant sensorimotor development to the grueling practice of Olympic athletes.”
  • Of Exercises – “We all need practice in curiosity, intellectual agility, the determination to analyze, commitment to resourceful communication, historically and culturally situated reflectiveness, the confidence to embrace complexity. In short: the ambition to crate something better, in whatever field.”
  • Of Conversation – “Shakespeare’s era prized conversation’s capacity to rub and polish our brains by contact with those of others.”
  • Of Stock  – “The secret of stock is that it gives you the base to make something else….Knowledge matters. It provides the scaffolding for future inquiry.”
  • Of Constraint- “Sometimes I point out the more obvious ways in which creation emerges because of constraint, not in spite of it: the agreed-upon time limit for a sports game, or the restricted ingredients in a cooking competition; something as banal as a projects’s budget and deadline; something as profound as life’s finitude. There’s an artistry in “making do” with what we’re allotted”
  • Of Making – “It’s telling that the Greek verb for “making” or “doing” was poiein-the same word that gives us “poet”.”
  • Of Freedom – “Baldwin saw that he must move beyond the necessary but early stage of imitation, to the stage that makes that external voice internal, synthesizing it into one’s own…ultimately, an act of freedom.”
  • Kinsman of the Shelf – A chapter containing additional readings for each of the previous chapters. 

If you are a homeschooler looking for a fresh perspective on a classical or liberal arts education, you will enjoy this unique collection of ideas to inspire your own efforts, or perhaps nudge you in a different direction. I’m always hoping to draw out the best in my children (much to their chagrin) and Newstok’s book is a good boost as I prepare to head into our winter break and start planning for the second half of the year. Even non-homeschoolers will begin to think about how they can encourage Shakespearean thinking in their children. Older students working on the Bard could be encouraged to read this book to add context to their studies. If you are a lover of Shakespeare, you will enjoy considering the era and ideas that shaped the mind of such a great writer, and perhaps understand a bit more about the inspiration for, and the the inner workings of, the characters familiar to fans for centuries. Shakespeare’s stories are so timeless, we can sometimes forget how different their world was from ours, beyond just the spoken English. 

My only criticism is that while Newstok shares some wonderful ideas, he relies very heavily (and very unnecessarily I feel) on other people’s words. There are numerous citations and quotes on every page which I sometimes found distracting even though they were all in line with his theme (and he does give fair warning in his preliminary chapter). I would’ve much preferred to read more of just the author’s own writing. 

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Experience Gifts: More Memories, Less Wrapping

It’s the time of year when everyone and their mother is putting out a gift guide. Don’t get me wrong, I love checking them out, I just usually can’t get my act together enough to pull one together.

That being said, my husband and I usually prefer to give experience gifts whenever possible. With two sets of generous grandparents (plus doting aunts, uncles, and a great-grandmother) our kids have never been lacking for presents at Christmas or on their birthdays. Tony and I have always preferred the space saving, and memory making, option of family activities, concerts, day trips, etc. vs. another toy or game.

Today I wanted to share seven ideas for experience gifts for your kids, spouse, and other family members, with some photos of our favorite experience gifts from the past thrown in. One of the best things about experience gifts is they can be very budget friendly. You don’t need to spend tons of money on concert tickets. In fact, during some of our leanest years, the simple experience gifts were the clear favorite. And for most of these gifts, a simple handmade certificate or coupon is all you need to present, which makes wrapping 100 times easier.

  • Camping- This can range from agreeing to sleep in the backyard with your child(ren), to allowing a backyard sleepover, to a weekend at a local campsite. Roasting s’mores, hiking, swimming at a lake, canoeing, star gazing, playing card games by lantern light; there’s lots you can add to this trip to make it fun for everyone.
Early birthday campout in the backyard.
  • Museum memberships- If you have two+ kids, it’s usually cheaper to just buy the membership than pay admission for everyone individually. Plus, having a memberships means you can go for an hour here, and an hour there (perhaps with separate kids) vs. trying to do it all in one long tantrum inducing trip.
Family membership to the Camden Aquarium, Christmas 2013.
  • Day trips to local sights – We live in NJ, so we’ve done a lot of trips to the beach and/or boardwalk, the Cape May Zoo (free!), Historic Smithville, Philadelphia, lighthouses, and Basto Village. Trips to New York City are the 11th birthday tradition. If the day trip is part of a gift for one specific child, we do usually let them pick out a souvenir from wherever we visited and purchase or take along a special snack. Tony and I have gifted each other date nights in a certain small towns where we get dinner, check out local shops, and generally enjoy being alone for a long stretch of time. Wineries, breweries, distilleries are also great local attractions.
Cape May Zoo trip for Byron’s 4th birthday.
Cape May Zoo trip for Teddy’s 2nd birthday.
  • Visit out of town friends and family and do an activity together – Since we have family in Lancaster County, PA, we’ve given (and received) experience gifts for attractions there as well. When visiting out of state relatives, we’ve watched sports games and visited museums or attended fairs or special events.
Trip on the Strasburg Railroad; a 2013 Christmas gift to Fulton and Teddy.
Addie requested a Hobbit themed party with family friends for her 12th birthday.
  • Lessons – Giving a gift of a few lessons is a great way for a child (or adult) to try something. We gave Addie horse lessons for Christmas when she was 8 and it was a huge hit.
  • Tickets – You can spend as much as you want here, but don’t think that you need to “go big or go home”. For concerts, we always make it a one on one event rather than a family event. For sporting events, we stick to small, local teams (not the NFL, NBA, or NBA) so we can get tickets for everyone and still afford to buy food. My grandmother still buys the great-grandkids ride tickets for the amusement park on the boardwalk in Ocean City, and sticks them in their Christmas stockings. Groupon is a great site to check for discount tickets on all sorts of events, shows, and things like axe throwing, golf, escape rooms, or paintball.
Monster truck show for Fulton’s 8th birthday.
Watching BTS for Addie’s 16th birthday.
  • Spa / Beauty Stuff – I love getting massage gift certificates. Maybe you’d like one for a facial or manicure. I know some moms and daughters make pedicures a special treat. Maybe someone in your house actually wants a gym membership, or Botox…I guess those fit in this category, just be really, really, REALLY sure that’s what they want. (Groupon is good for all this stuff too.)

Most of these gift can be given as gifts to the whole family, or to an individual child or family member. Grandparents can give experience gifts for mom and dad to do alone, with the kids, or for activities the grandkids can do with the grandparents; same for aunts, uncle, and everyone else. Experience gifts can also be used whenever. Save the beach trip for a sunny day, plan a trip to visit out of state cousins in the spring- it’s nice to have things to look forward to once all the Christmas decorations are put away.

Godparents can give the gift of having a Mass said for their godchild, and try attending Mass with the child on the day. Or they can take a special trip to a local shrine or pilgrimage site to commemorate a baptismal anniversary or any other special event.

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How to Study Shakespeare At Home

One of the few things I’ve been able to consistently stick with in our homeschool is the study of Shakespeare. The whole thing started on a whim during the 2014-15 school year. I’d tried reading poetry once a week during our “family subjects” time and the kids were ‘meh’. So I decided to introduce Shakespeare at the beginning of our second trimester. Makes perfect sense right? If I recall correctly, we’d watched part of the Hollow Crown Series earlier in the year when I was desperately trying to find a video that lined up to the history period we were studying. I believe my train of thought was that since everyone loved the live action Henry V adaption, they’d love whatever other Shakespeare play I threw at them. Plus, it’d give me an excuse to put on another movie every few weeks. And I’d feel less guilty for ditching poetry. So while I knew I definitely wanted my highs schoolers to study Shakespeare, I didn’t give a whole ton of thought to how to study Shakespeare at home with my kids in grades PreK through 7th.

We started with Comedy of Errors, and I quickly found a system that worked for us, and I’ve stuck with it ever since. My kids’ enthusiasm has grown through the years, and I think it helps that I truly love reading and watching Shakespeare with them. Plus, there are no grades or projects tied to our study of the Bard. We read, discuss, watch, discuss, and after a steady diet of comedies and tragedies we start making connections between the plays, and other forms of entertainment as well. I had no experience with Shakespeare, save for studying Romeo and Juliet in high school, and it was really my lack of expertise in pretty much all great British and American literature that motivated me to introduce as many good books and authors to my kids as soon as possible.

So if you’re interested in exposing your kids to Shakespeare, don’t be intimidated! You can learn how to study Shakespeare at home with your kids! But also know that, if you give it a try and it doesn’t work for your family or homeschool, it’s not the end of the world.

For elementary age kids, I recommend Beautiful Stories From Shakespeare by Edith Nesbit (which you can listen to for free on LibriVox), or any good children’s adaption of Shakepeares’ plays. Usborne Books has several good looking versions (including a fun sticker book I bought just for myself). When we started, I would have the younger kids listen to a children’s version of the play I was reading aloud to the older kids. Then we would all watch the play together (with numerous pauses to explain what was going on). When we started, we focused on the comedies Twelfth Night, As You Like It, The Comedy of Errors, Much Ado About Nothing, etc. Most of the plays we watched were free either through Amazon Prime or our local library. Only a few times when I found the free options to be absolutely awful did I consider purchasing/ renting a different version.

For my upper elementary, middle school aged kids, I read the plays in modern English, usually from the No Fear Shakespeare series. We’d cover about one scene at a time (or a few if they were short). I’ve done some dramatic reading, but typically, I would simply mention something like “And then Malvoleo said…” if it wasn’t overtly clear who was speaking. I’d also pause and review the scene as necessary to make sure everyone understood what was going on. I’ve also made drawings to explain connections and relations when needed.

We also talk about William Shakespeare when we study Elizabethan England, so the kids learn about his personal life, the Globe theater, etc. during history.

In high school, both Addie and Byron read and studied plays for various literature courses. Addie through Queen of Heaven Academy, and Byron took a great course through Tan Books: Shakespeare’s Catholicism: A Critical Analysis of the Bard’s Life and Plays, led by Joseph Pearce. (So don’t worry, when deciding how to study Shakespeare, you can always consider outsourcing some of the work.) He gained a lot of insight from that class and led us in discussions of Romeo and Juliet and the Merchant of Venice. Edie studied A Midsummer Night’s Dream in 8th grade and should I continue to plan Edie’s high school curricula, I will definitely have her read several plays as part of a course on British Literature and/ or with his plays tied to different historic periods. The difference between high school and earlier study is I do expect my kids to be reading the original versions (not modern English adaptions) and writing in-depth literary analysis papers. But because they have experience with Shakespeare, it’s no more intimidating than any other book. (So just to be sure- there’s still complaining, but it’s no worse than usual.) The creators of the No Fear series are also the people behind Spark Notes, so their website is also helpful for older students who need help understanding the plays and writing papers about them.

Right now I read Shakespeare every day during our morning meeting time which includes the younger three. Because Edie is studying other plays for literature, I don’t have her doing any additional writing on the plays I’m reading aloud.

My favorite video adaptions are as follows (some affiliate links below):

*These BBC productions are very good, and are usually free on Amazon Prime or we had most available at our local library on DVD. You usually can’t go wrong with this series- except for Macbeth which I thought was awful.

Just a reminder that Shakespeares plays were written for adults. There’s lots of sexual jokes, violence, and words you might not want your kids repeating (I feel like every other word in King Lear is either whore or bastard). If you have young children, some of the language and innuendo might go over there heads, but if you’re concerned, choose a video adaptation made for kids.

As you can see, there’s plenty of plays we haven’t covered yet. We’re currently reading King Lear, after which we’ll review a comedy the boys probably don’t remember well because we studied it years ago. As of yet, the kids have not performed Shakespeare, nor read parts aloud. I wouldn’t mind organizing something for our kids and others, but it never materialized and since none of my kids were clamoring for the opportunity to recite Shakespeare, it never happened. We’ve also never memorized soliloquies, quotes, or stanzas. I have tried to highlight famous passages when I read them, but memorization has never been my strong suit. I feel like what we’re doing is fun, enjoyable, and exposes my kids to great literature so I don’t usually feel guilty for not doing even more… until I see some other homeschoolers creating lavish sets and costumes for their 15th annual Shakespearean Festival of the Arts in which everyone speaks in Elizabethan English all day for authenticity. The rest of the time I’m fine. How you decide to study Shakespeare at home can look completely different from what I’ve outlined here.

If you want to take your study of Shakespeare a step further, I recommend Ken Ludwig’s book How to Teach Your Children Shakespeare, plus a quick search on Amazon will turn up several adaptions of Shakespeare’s plays suitable for a children’s performances.

(Lastly, thank you for your prayers everyone- we get to keep 12 hours of nursing care! We went through several appeals, but finally an external appeal agency agreed with us and overturned the insurance company’s decision to reduce our hours. )

So that’s how to study Shakespeare at home, Mantoan style. Any questions? How was your week? Write it down then link it up below. Be sure to include a link back to this post so your readers can find the rest of the Quick Takes, plus information or teaching their kids about Shakespeare they didn’t even know they needed. I look forward to reading your posts!

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Arise From Darkness: The Book to Read Following A Difficult Diagnosis

Shortly after the diagnosis of my son with Spinal Muscular Atrophy, I feel into a deep depression and state of spiritual despair. I was angry with God and unable to pray most days, and while I thought I should consider professional counseling, I couldn’t imagine fitting one more appointment into days already packed with homeschooling, therapy visits, specialist appointments, and more. I needed something to help me make sense of the hopelessness I was feeling, and amazingly enough, I found it on a random visit to our local library.

As I wandered the shelves, looking for some form of distraction, a title jumped out at me; Arise From Darkness. I pulled the book from the shelf and read the subtitle and author’s name on the cover; “What to do when life doesn’t make sense, ” Benedict J. Groeschel, CFR. I was amazed at how I seemed to stumble upon a book that so accurately described my current state, and was written by a well-known Catholic. I took it home and finished it within a couple days. It marked a turning point in my life, and from the moment I set the finished book down I knew I would be okay and that I was taking my first step out of the sadness and darkness that had consumed me.

Read more at Accepting the Gift.

{SQT} Come Holy Spirit!

Edie got the sacrament of Confirmation! Welcome to spiritual adulthood Edith Kateri! (One guess who she chose as her Confirmation saint. I had fun spelling it to the cake decorator.)

It was a beautiful ceremony and Edie looked beautiful in her dress, which also happened to be my mother-in-law’s wedding dress. It fit Edie perfectly and despite my daughters using it as a dress up gown many years ago, we only needed to make a few repairs. We hadn’t told Tony’s mom that Edie would be wearing the dress so it was a pleasant surprise for her.

We had a small gathering at our house afterwards for grandparents and Edie’s sponsor’s family. It wasn’t the big party I wanted to throw, but at this point, I was just so happy she got Confirmed, I didn’t care (that much). At least I didn’t need to spend all day Thursday cleaning up the yard and house.

Insurance concerns are still up in the air, but I expect a resolution to the nursing issue early next week. Honestly, my hopes are not high. I’m going to try to not think about it while we’re in Gettysburg this weekend. Last time we went was:

March 2012

Since Fulton and Teddy are our two big military history buffs, we thougth another trip was in order. Both are excited to spend tonight (Friday the 13th) in a hotel that overlooks the National Cemetery. If we don’t see wounded Civil War ghosts walking around I think the whole trip will be a bust.

A reminder that I’ve started a ministry for Catholic special needs parents. (Our relaunched website is now a year old!) You can find us at acceptingthegift.org and join our Facebook group HERE. We’ve started online support group meetings, I’ve been leading live stream prayers and talks, and members can watch all the presenters from the 2019 conference. Join us, or spread the word to your friends who might be looking for support! And of course there’s also a monthly newsletter- sign up here.

Sorry for the short takes. I honestly don’t even know where all my time went this week. I mean, I sort of do, but I feel like I couldn’t have possibly filled all my time but yet here I am hammering out takes on a Thursday night unable to recall anything else. Maybe I’m just old.

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